Since I’ve turned 31 years old last month – I know, shocker – I’d thought I’d share some of my ‘wisdom’ with you – unfiltered, just plain raw thoughts.
31 things I’ve learned in my 31 years – in no particular order. Please keep in mind that these are from my perspective – it may not apply to you, heck, it may be common sense to you. If you don’t have anything nice to say, keep it to yourselves.Jacket | Dress c/o PB&J Boutique | Sandals | Bag | Necklace (sold out from Anthropologie)
- Mom was right – It doesn’t matter about what, mom was and always will be right. Listen to your mom.
- Your siblings are your best friends. You may have hated them growing up, you may have fought with them daily – but when you’re older, they’ll always be the constant person/people you can count on.
- Anger – let it go. Whatever is bothering you, whatever has defeated you, whomever has burned you, let that anger go.
- Use sunblock – never walk out of the house without using some sort of SPF on your face, you’ll regret it when you’re 30 and you look like you’re 50.
- Travel – I can’t emphasize this enough. Stop making excuses and start booking vacations – even if it’s one major trip once a year, make it count.
- Facial serums are your best friend and while they may be expensive, you only need a small daily dose so the bottle or tube will actually last a long while.
- Friends. If you got good ones, keep them close. If you have ones that you’ve known all your life but does not uplift you, support you, and make time for you – let them go. Quality vs. Quantity – it’s not a popularity contest.
- Read. Read everything, billboards, books, even the news – knowledge is power. (Especially if you’re attending a networking function.)Top | Jeans | Shoes c/o Mari A. similar here | Bag c/o Deux Lux
- Put down your phone – the world is passing you by. Technology can’t teach you how to be personable and it very well can’t show another person how you actually value their time if you’re always looking down at a screen.
- Make your bed – Why is this important? Because it’s the first thing you’ll accomplish – if nothing else at all that day.
- Take the TV out of the bedroom – Because TV makes you lazy, watching TV in your bedroom makes you even lazier. Get up, make your bed, and walk your lazy butt to the living room.
- Vitamins –Omega 3? Fish Oil? Even pre-natals when you’re not pregnant, if they’re good enough for a preggo, they’re good enough for you.
- Make time – I know it’s easy to put things off, put people off, because ‘you’re so busy’. Make time, because you’re never going to get more of it than you already have now.
- Do start investing in your future – it’s never too soon to have a retirement plan, it’ll be here before you know it.
- Perfect the two phrases that are hardest to say – never be afraid to admit you are wrong and never be afraid to tell someone how you feel. Say I’m sorry, say I love you.
- If you’re married – go on dates, just because you’ve stopped dating doesn’t mean you have to stop dating. Top | Jeans | Shoes | Bag | Pouf | Necklace
- Don’t tell someone ‘I know how you must be feeling’, if you’ve never actually have been in their shoes. It’s not comforting, it’s downright offensive. Find a different way to comfort them – hell, buy them ice cream because who doesn’t like ice cream?
- If you hate your job, quit. If you hate the next job, quit again – but never quit your current job without have another job in line. (That’s just plain stupid.)
- Take a cooking class, a photography class, maybe even a knitting class? Take something. Why? Because it’s not something you’d ordinarily do, and maybe you’ll even meet the coolest people you never thought possible. It’s not about the class, it’s about the experience. Experience creates memories. Go make memories.
- Stop comparing yourself to others. I joined the military right after high school, while all my friends were off frolicking with their college buddies, I was perfecting how to become an expert at the M16 rifle, learning the proper way to throw a grenade, and getting yelled at to run five miles at 6am. But here’s the exchange – if I’d dwell on the experiences I thought I would have missed, I wouldn’t be able to embrace the memories I have made. While my friends were frolicking with their college buddies – I was traveling the world (my first duty station was Okinawa, Japan) and meeting people from all walks of life and learning their story. So, stop comparing yourself to others.
- Sleep at least 8 hours a night, for two reasons – 1. Your body starts to take longer to catch up with your activities if you’re running on little sleep. 2. You’ll look like a damn raccoon and those puffy circles DO NOT go away quickly.
- Schedule alone time. Learn to relax. Pour a tall glass of wine, kick your feet up and watch something absolutely mindless – make time for yourself.
- Build credit early. The only difference between you and the next person when you’re trying to buy a house is how reliable and financially responsible you are to a bank.
- Learn to swim. It’s fun, it can help you lose weight, and it can save your life – need I say more?Scarf | Dress | Booties | Bag c/o Deux Lux
- Do not burn your bridges. At home, at work, in life – karma’s a b*tch and she’ll come after you.
- Do not intentionally inflict pain – not just physical pain, I mean emotional pain. Don’t bully. Don’t be passive aggressive. Don’t be hateful. Why? Because it’s the humane thing to do, and well, see above.
- Love deeply, love wholeheartedly. Don’t ever let your past be the reason why you can’t appreciate the present. If you love someone, give it all you’ve got – they shouldn’t pay for the mistakes the last person that scorned you made.
- You’re not perfect, get over it. Stop beating yourself up if you’ve made a mistake – you’re human, it happens, and it’ll probably happen again.
- Ask nicely. People aren’t motivated to help you, even if it were their fault, when you’re acting like a total nut. So ask nicely, it’ll get your further to your end goal.
- Take chances, take risks. “Every chance not taken is an opportunity missed” – Ken Petti
- Love yourself. You may WANT others to love you, but you don’t NEED it. You only NEED to love yourself, and everything else will fall into place.
Okay, I think that’s it since I ONLY turned 31. If you have more to add, please feel free to comment. Like I said above, these may not apply to you, these may come as common sense to you – and most are, until you’ve truly experienced them and understand the full meaning of something simple. If you’ve continued reading this far, I want to thank you for spreading precious time out of your day with me.